Unlike most women, men are typically attracted to a woman based on her looks, rather than her acumen or intellectual capacity.
We tend to be impressed, first, by what we see rather than what we feel. What we see, somehow determines what we would feel down the road…at least that is the message the brain sends through the spinal cord when a” beautiful well shaped woman” walks by or into a room.So now, what does a “beautiful well shaped woman” look like? That would depend on who you ask.
There are so many different definitions to what a man finds attractive.
I have a friend who is 6’4 and weighs about 150lbs, but he is only attracted to women with a minimum weight of 300lbs.
Don’t ask me why…he has been married to 3 different women and they all fit that bill.
Size does matter.
There are men who are fascinated by breast size, some by long legs, some by thick stocky legs, some by butts, some by hips, some by feet , some by a little pouch (yes, some men find that chub sexy).
Then you have some really picky men that will mix and match; they like big breasts but she must also have small feet, or a big backside with a tiny waist. The list goes on and on.
Depending on the man in question, some of these fixations can be deal breakers.
There is nothing worse than being a “butt man” on a blind date with a woman who happens to have none.
Bland as it might sound, she may be perfect in all other ways, but the fact that she has no butt has already broken the deal. He is not interested. He will be cordial and may even call her once or twice, but he cannot forgive her for not having a butt.
If his friends should ask him how the date went, he would say, she is nice, but she has no butt.
Before you throw stones at me, not all men are that shallow.
Some still forgive the lack of…, compensated by the abundance of….
For instance, though he does not typically like a woman without a butt, her inner beauty exudes so much that he is willing to forgive the former.
The other thing is you should ask him to be honest and tell you if he is a leg man, breast man, butt man etc.
If he answers with a ‘yes’ to something you don’t have, or are not, then this is the big question (don’t tell the men I told you this), ask him if he can forgive the lack there of.
Kehinde Dacosta-Lawrence, one of Paulina and Jonathan’s twin boys, is a writer / music producer who lives in Atlanta, in Lagos and on Facebook.
